We’ve all heard it before…Mind your own business. It comes with such a negative connotation. I remember being a kid and hearing that phrase being said around the playground. In actuality, it is true and real and something we should all be striving for. We need to spend more time minding our own business instead of minding the business of others.
Who gave us permission to get involved in someone else’s business without being invited? I believe it comes from the premise that something is “wrong” and we need to fix it. If we truly believe that everything is in Divine Order then nothing is broken and nothing needs to be fixed. Leave it alone. Perhaps it is a life lesson that person needs to learn and you are getting in the way of them learning it. That means they will continue to have that issue repeatedly until they learn it. Support. Encourage. Facilitate. By all means, let them learn their lesson.
When we truly love ourselves, we simply reflect that out into the world. When we do that, other people’s business won’t seem so important. If people need help, it’s important that they learn to ask for it. We are all accountable to our own stuff. Don’t take on other people’s stuff in the name of helping them. Ask them if they need help. Let them know you are available to assist if they need it.
If you are still reading, you might be thinking that Minding our Own Business would be a very selfish way of living. Ah, that word Selfish…the word of mothers around the world who wish to impose guilt upon their children. Can we change that word to Self-aware? If I am self-aware, I know what is mine and what belongs to others. I understand that I need to ask for what I want and it isn’t a personal attack if someone says no to me. When I am self-aware, I clean up my own stuff and become the best that I can be. I honor and respect everyone around me at the point at which they are in their life. It doesn’t have to be where I am.
When you are in a stressful situation, ask yourself, “How much of this belongs to me?” If you didn’t create it, cause it or have anything to do with it, chances are you are minding someone else’s business. Take a step back, set a boundary and Mind your Own Business.